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an open letter
snarl
soopageek
There are more than a few events, recent and past, from which this entry stems.  The particulars of this is not of consequence, just my overall feelings of vitriol I'd like to spew forth at this very instant, because I can and want. 

To any man who has ever forcefully exerted his physical power over a woman for the purpose of instilling fear, intimidation, or working out issues of violence and dysfunction in his own life I would like to say the following:  fuck you and where do you get off?  Who hasn't had deep personal issues to exorcise?  I don't care how messed up your life seems or is, it is not an excuse and I'm tired of your bullshit.  If things are so messed-up inside yourself that you feel you have to raise your hand-to or violate a woman to get your point across, you are fucked.up.  Really.  So do us a favor, take one for the team and thin the herd.  You have no place among us.  The nice guys of the world are tired of picking up the pieces of your dysfunctional blitzkrieg on our sisters, mothers, friends, and lovers.  We don't mind being there for them, but we shouldn't have to be there for them.  We shouldn't have to endure the hint of fear in their eyes when we're in their presence.  We shouldn't have to pretend we don't notice the slight flinching when a sudden movement is made.  We shouldn't have to worry that they're afraid to express themselves honestly, even angrily, with us out of fear, leaving them to keep it all bottled inside.  You're disgusting and despicable and I have zero sympathy for you.  I hope there's a special skewer over the pit for you in the hottest parts of hell.  I'll be there stoking the furnace with sulphur and brimstone if they let me.

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Seeing as how I'm personal friends with Satan, I'll let him know you're the man for the job.

i'll be the happiest guy in the pit if i get that gig.

I didn't know how to reply to this except to say thank you.


no thanks necessary. what sucks is that there should even be anything to be thankful for in the first place.

I just wanted to thank you for being you. For existing.

where is the love? *cue the sign of the devil. because katie knows him.

you guys make me sick. seriously.

keep up the good work. i'm glad to know it's out there somewhere.


Re: where is the love? *cue the sign of the devil. because katie knows him.

\m/

amen, my brutha.

*hugs*

and thanks from the girlies :)

i just wish it didn't have to be said in the first place, this entry or this comment

I'm sad to even be writing this response, but you honestly just made me cry. (In an "Oh my GOD, someone DOES actually think with the head on his shoulders instead of with his other one" way.)

Thanks.

I reacted in the same way.

Me too. It's good to know there are lots of nice guys out there...guys who don't consider "Honey, can you pass the salt?" a form of nagging. O.o

it's a sad commentary that there are so many women who don't believe that there are guys who can and i'm sick of fighting it. fuck 'em all.

Holy crap, you two are online. *wavewave* Hi guys!

Yes, well, I've been trying to tell myself fuck 'em all for the last three years, and it's just not working. It helps to hear other people at least see the same things I do.

...I'm just too cynical anymore, but it seems to me that anyone that this message might actually be fit for would just read it (if they can) and mutter 'faggot' or somesuch under their breath and roll on....that, or, as you said, they are in fact mentally fucked and need to be institutionalized or perhaps 'thinned out' some other way... you know what I mean? Its an open letter to the sort of person who'd never get it. But, just in case there is some rational fella (or lady, for that matter) who is abusive as such and is semi-rational and somehow never quite realized their mistake until this... good show, ol' chap. I am personally aware of a few relationships which might have been nice for some people if previous relationships hadn't made them so paranoid and freaked and retreated. It is a bit sad, indeed.

I am personally aware of a few relationships which might have been nice for some people if previous relationships hadn't made them so paranoid and freaked and retreated. It is a bit sad, indeed.

And that, my friends, is precisely what I've not only had happen to myself, but what I have watched happen to female friends. It gets very tiresome to be dealing with someone who thinks you're their ex, and therefor treats you that way.

Ugh.

...I'm just too cynical anymore, but it seems to me that anyone that this message might actually be fit for would just read it (if they can) and mutter 'faggot' or somesuch under their breath and roll on

Or you'd hear all about how that point of view is "too idealistic and doesn't apply to the real world" and how "violence is an acceptable means of problem solving." and how soopageek "just doesn't get it." Seriously...I was married to someone like that. (Note the use of the word "was".) And it has effected my current relationship. It hasn't caused any serious problems, I just react in odd, extremely defensive ways to certain situations.

That was sorta the point of this entry. I had someone try and convince me that this entry was somehow self-serving to point-out how nice of a guy I am. The point was that there are caring people in relationships with people who have been victims of this sort of violence and it's frustrating for us and makes us angry that it has to be an issue. The person in question thought I should have simply expressed my anger for the act itself. I thought that was implicit. I wanted to express how it also sucks for the other people in their lives when trying to form bonds and relationships, and that by being angry about it, I somehow "don't get it". I'm glad you see the difference.

I thought you did a good job of making both points, but that may just be how I read it. ;)

It was implicit.

I think it's wonderful that you're angry about how it harms other people. I'm angry about it too, I just don't always put it as well. :)

Dude; I'm right there, with you. Maybe we should form some kind of superhero brigade?
You could be BJ McKay and I'll be your best friend, Bear.

This might not have been quite your meaning...but it makes me think its sad in that you're not alone in thinking that just being a decent person anymore will qualify you as superhero, y'know? Just being a free, independent, respectful, hard-working, honest person...and you must be like Superman/woman. How hard is it, really....

I'd just like to hear Blondie's "One Way Or Another" playing under the chase scenes.

who says you have to call just one place, HOOOOMMMMEE!?

i bet you've got a bat in that damn truck, don't you?

you have my loyalty for life


let's go kick some ass

seriously i love you lol

Thank you so much for this. I found you through welfy, btw. Add me back if that's cool with you.

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