the end of one era, the beginning of another

With my somewhat recent foray into social networking sites, I've decided after much deliberation to make my Livejournal a more private affair. That's not to say that there still won't be any public content here, but my journal has become increasingly more private over the past year. There was a time when I got a kick out of having a large public audience here, but that novelty has worn-off. I wish to return my journal to a simpler time, a journal where I feel like I know the people I am interacting with. That can only happen if a) I know you in RL or b) I have the time and energy to keep-up at least marginally with your journal. The reality is, I don't and I'm sure that' no surprise to a great deal of you.

For this purpose, I have and will be conducting a massive cleaning-out of my f-list. I absolutely despise "cut posts" but at the same time, when I'm unexpectedly cut from an f-list, I know the first thing *I* do is go to the person's journal and see if they gave some sort of reason. If you find that you have been cut in this process, please know that it's nothing personal. You're welcome to keep me on your f-list if you enjoy reading my public content here. As big of a cut as this was, it's entirely possible I made a some mistakes due to a name change I didn't notice or a mis-click of the mouse. If for some reason you think I may have inadvertently removed you, don't hesitate to drop me a note. I did sift through 315+ names and whittle it down to 120, so making a mistake is entirely possible.

Also, you're more than welcome and cordially invited to add me over at Facebook if you'd like to keep in touch.

ETA: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1007765711&ref=profile

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cryslea

2009-02-02 01:04 am (UTC)

I certainly understand the need to clean out flists. I've been thinking about doing it myself- there's a few people whom I tend to skim over a lot- but I'm kind of a chicken/don't want to hurt people's feelings.

soopageek

2009-02-02 01:31 am (UTC)

I had been thinking about doing it for a long time. This entire past year, actually. I hope no one takes it too personally or gets their feelings hurt. It's certainly not a reflection on anyone, just my own lack of time, motivation, and ability to keep-up with 300+ journals. I've always said that the biggest an f-list can be on LJ and be manageable is somewhere in the neighborhood of 100-125 journals. Beyond that, and it's just impossible to keep up with everyone, unless you just have like, no life.

superhappytime

2009-02-02 01:15 am (UTC)

There was a time when I got a kick out of having a large public audience here, but that novelty has worn-off.

Translation = "There was a time when I was trolling for pussy on the internet, but now I'm married."

2009-02-02 01:24 am (UTC)

I was trying to be as politically correct as possible.

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theafaye

2009-02-02 01:18 am (UTC)

There's a lot to be said for sticking with people you know in real life. I never take cuts personally - it is just the internet, after all and your reasoning is perfectly sound.

Be well.

WARNING!

slhorsfield

2009-02-02 01:26 am (UTC)

Our friendship was before LiveJournal. Please dont cut me. Besides Robin this is my only other form of knowing whats going on. Besides you brought me here, which I thank you for. Its been a great outlet for me.

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2009-02-02 01:28 am (UTC)

Oh honey I ain't cutting you.

porcelain72

I appreciate you keeping me around. That is, if you didn't do it by mistake. /paranoia

2009-02-02 01:33 am (UTC)

Not a mistake at all.

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intravenous

2009-02-02 01:41 am (UTC)

I hope I was kept. And I hope it was on purpose. (:

2009-02-02 01:49 am (UTC)

Yes and yes. You're one of my newer friends that I'm hoping to get to know better in the near future.

justamy

2009-02-02 01:52 am (UTC)

I checked your list not because I thought you'd remove me, but because I have a perverted sense of curiosity.

But I noticed something... You didn't remove Leslie. And that comforts me in some way I can't explain.

Isn't it amazing how hard that is to do? I will never do it. I just got a new cell phone and I had them transfer all my old numbers...including Leslie.

Edited at 2009-02-02 01:53 am (UTC)

welfy

2009-02-02 01:55 am (UTC)

I immediately noticed it, too, and thought it was sweet.

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wineandsong

2009-02-02 01:57 am (UTC)

I have to admit I breathed a sigh of relief that I'm still here. :) I like hearing what's going on with you... I get lots of it from welf, but I knew you first!

I think it wise

sinceregenesis

2009-02-02 01:59 am (UTC)

I rarely post anymore, mainly because I don't think I have anything useful to say, but also you just never know when something will come back to revisit you or be taken out of context/misinterpreted. I've enjoyed reading your trucker posts, and have thought about you since your leaving the road. I wish you success personally and professionally. You haven't mentioned anything recently, but I think it just has to be a matter of time before the right opportunity presents itself. Someone in power would do well to have you on his/her team, IMHO.

Re: I think it wise

2009-02-02 02:05 am (UTC)

My thinking wasn't so much on who writes how much or comments or doesn't comment. Folks like you who I haven't talked to in a while but have "known" forever on here I kept.

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tpbrcombo

2009-02-02 02:09 am (UTC)

MISSED ME

2009-02-02 02:20 am (UTC)

Damnit. I was hoping to never see another comment from you ever again.

2009-02-02 02:12 am (UTC)

Well, it was nice knowing you!

You don't get off that easy. You have to live with me.

2009-02-02 02:14 am (UTC)

ps. I'm writing to random people of the 180 on your "Also Friend Of" list, gloating. No replies yet.

2009-02-02 02:24 am (UTC)

Dear former

soopageek livejournal.friend:

I writing to you today to inform you of my superiority over you. Just think of all the self-important and self-centered journal content you're going to be missing. No longer will you be privy to all of the marginally amusing, 4th tier blog entries filled with recycled insights and hackneyed observations. I am SOOOOOO lucky!

Sincerely,
Paul

brightflashes

I really enjoyed reading your idol posts and I would like to get to know you more, but I totally understand cutting back the friends list - I'm going to be doing that in a little while. For the record, in case it didn't sink in the first 100 times I said it, your writing is absolutely brilliant and it greatly effected the way I thought about the sensitivity to language and the human condition. Thanks for the heads up. : )

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2009-02-02 02:38 am (UTC)

I'm glad you enjoyed them, though I (obviously) don't write like that with any frequency. You're more than welcome to hang around and read the public content and add me over at Facebook if you like.... but I know that, given my track record on LJ for the past two years, I'm not likely to a) write much or b) read many new journals.

babyhugs2004

2009-02-02 02:41 am (UTC)

I'm not sure if you remember who I am (which would explain the cut) -- I'm Nathan's (

leinahtane) wife, we met back last year, right after you and Erin moved into your house. Life has prevented Nathan and I from getting together with the two of you, but we would like to spend some time hanging out and catching up when the time is available. I would like to be kept as a friend, but understand if you don't.

2009-02-02 02:55 am (UTC)

Ah, you're right. The username eluded me. I tried to make it a point to keep folks who I've met and/or are related to my network of closer friends. I'll correct that. :)

kittenboo

2009-02-02 02:50 am (UTC)

hot damn you kept me on? i am certainly glad, albeit a bit surprised.

2009-02-02 03:04 am (UTC)

You're probably surprised because, to be honest, I haven't made the effort to keepup with you, along with quite a few other of my newer friends from the past couple of years that I wish I couldv'e gotten to know better. I'm hoping to rectify that. :)

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soopageek

famous like Meadowlark Lemon

WARNING!

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