I recently watched the sequel to Boondock Saints. While it wasn't nearly as entertaining as the first one, there is a dream sequence near the end with a speech of sorts with which I completely and totally identify. I thought I'd share it, somewhat paraphrased since multiple characters speak the sentiment in the scene.
Men build things, then we die. It's in our fucking DNA! THAT'S WHAT WE DO! And when it all falls down? We build it right back up again. But this time bigger. BETTER! Look! Look what we can do. Look how fuckin' beautiful we are. You think the men that built all this had it easy? Hard men! Doing hard shit! And that gives me a hard on.
I am so sick of all of this self-help, twelve-step, leftover hippie generation bullshit! Now they don't want you to do anything, right? Just sit there. Don't drink. Don't smoke. Don't drive fast. Kiss my ass! Fuck it! Do it all I say! Do you think Duke Wayne spent all of his time talking about his feelings with a fuckin' therapist? There's no fucking way he did! John Wayne died with five pounds of undigested red meat in his ass. Now that's a man!
Real men hide their feelings. Why? Because it's none of your fuckin' business! Men do not cry. Men do not pout. Men jack you in the fuckin' jaw and say, "Thanks for comin' out."
I've always felt there was a disservice done to men by the second-wave feminist movement, that I'm not sure I can explain adequately without coming-off like some mysogynist pig. There always seemed to be an expectation that men had to change the very essence of what it meant to be a man. In a nutshell, we were expected to be more like women and the reverse of the scenario was just stupid and silly, because our way was wrong.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for equality for all folk. The end result, a culture where women have infinitely more opportunity than they did 40 years ago, is remarkable and it might be that something this drastic was necessary to get the ball rolling. To be fair, in the "third-wave" of feminism, some of these trends which have irked me are being reversed. A large cross-section of women in our culture are discovering their masculine sides and becoming more understanding of what makes a man tick... and it's very sexy. I guess I just felt that for years, in the so-called battle of the sexes, it was incredibly lopsided. After millenia of inequality, it's not lost on me that a few decades of lopsidedness is a small price to pay. My hope is that when the dust finally settles that we meet somewhere in the middle.